Lifting the Veil with Matthew Oliver Weddings

A behind the scenes look at wedding planning for the discerning nearly weds, with the best in the business.

In this edition of Lifting the Veil, we chat to Matthew Oliver, founder of luxury destination wedding planners, Matthew Oliver Weddings

With a talent for creating spectacular weddings across the globe from Oman to New York and a passion for nurturing real relationships with each couple to ensure that their big day is as smooth as it can be, Matthew Oliver is a wedding planner like no other.

We caught up with the main man himself to find out exactly what makes a Matthew Oliver wedding so special…

For someone who doesn’t know what a wedding planner does, can you explain how you work with a couple to plan their special day?

We are a couple’s wedding fairy! We literally do everything…

Traditionally, a wedding planner is a service that helps plan everything relating to a couple’s wedding. What makes us different from other event planners out there is that we really try to bring the fun. We love to be really engaged with our couples, treating the process as more of a friendship rather than just a service. Planning a wedding is so personal and emotional – and stressful! – so we want to make it as easy for each couple as possible. What we’ve seen, from doing it the way we do, is that the more personal you are with a couple and the more of a friendship you have with them, the more they feel at ease. This means they can truly enjoy their big day, trusting us to take care of everything.

We start by sourcing venues, helping create budgets and getting creative with ideas to make their dream wedding a reality.

How do you work with a couple to split their budget across their celebration, and what would you advise to prioritise spending on?

For me flowers, photography and venue are the three most important things, but everyone has different priorities. This harks back to my earlier point – we need to get to know our couples to understand their lifestyle and what’s important to them. For example, do they go on holidays that cost £20,000? Or perhaps they spend closer to 100k? And where would they go? What sort of service is important to them in normal life? Learning these things helps us to understand what’s important for their wedding, because it’s a personal experience, just like a holiday is. Each couple is so different.

Personally, I love flowers and design elements of a wedding, but the largest part of the budget will be spent on the location and/or venue. Once that’s chosen, that will dictate where the rest of the budget will go. So choosing your venue is probably the best place to start. Obviously each venue is so different too – whether you’re choosing Kew Gardens or Heckfield Place, each will take up a sizable proportion of your budget, so it’s important to pick that first, then see how much budget we’re left to play with for the rest of the planning.

What do you see as a big trend for the next 12 months in weddings? 

This is another difference between us and other event planers – we don’t really follow trends in the industry. For us, our ‘trend’ is our couple. Yes, we get inspired by a lot of our colleagues out there, like Social Pantry, other planners and photographers etc, but the majority of time, how we plan our weddings and what we create is based on the couple’s life story, their personality, and what they actually want.

A lot of it is also to do with the venue. We dig deep into how to bring a wedding to life at that particular location, but use a ‘less is more’ approach to enhance the venue so it looks the very best it can. The venues we work with are absolutely stunning, so we don’t need to go too crazy and we don’t want to create something that looks tacky. So, our trends are based on the couple, and the location.

Having said that, lots of my clients are deciding to get married abroad, more so now than ever. I think this is down to the breadth of the choice out there, as well as being able to celebrate with a holiday-come-party-come-wedding weekend.

I’m also seeing a lot of people doing more fashionable weddings – like a three-day fashion celebration with amazing outfits and everyone is really taking note. Instead of a groom wearing shorts or looking ridiculous, everyone is putting 100% in… which obviously helps with the photos!

I would love to say that I’m seeing more environmentally friendly, sustainable weddings. I would love to be doing more of that myself too, but unfortunately, that is not really the case…

What is one of the most memorable and/or unique things you’ve seen at a wedding during your time in the industry?

All of the weddings that we’ve created have had fun memories. We’re so lucky to do what we do. We get to travel to all of these amazing destinations around the world with incredible couples, learning from them and from their experiences of life. They really resonate with us and help us to grow.

One of the most memorable things I’ll always remember, was a two-week wedding celebration for a royal family in Oman. We also did a wedding on a small island in the Bahamas that was just insane. The aquatic life over there was something that I’ll never forget. And there was the wedding we did in New York for a celebrity, which was also a great experience. 

A lot of the most memorable events that we have planned are about the people, seeing everyone connected and having a good time. And then actually staying friends with them. For instance, we did a wedding in Florence a couple of years ago and we became best friends with them. We’ve since visited them in Washington, DC, staying with them for a week and celebrating with all their guests from their wedding, which was really fun. 

You’ve spent over ten years as a wedding planner, what piece of advice would you give your younger self, when you were starting out?

Thank you for asking this! I would say to my younger self to believe in yourself and don’t pretend to be someone you’re not.

When I started in this industry I was trying to fit in with the stereotype of the typical gay wedding planner. However, I feel in the last couple of years – and this is because we’re so lucky to be able to travel and embrace the experiences we’ve had – we’ve really fallen into ourselves and become comfortable with who we are and what we’re doing.

So, I’d say to just be yourself,  don’t listen to anyone but yourself and just follow your path. Trust yourself and it’ll all be a fantastic experience.

How would you describe the essence of a Matthew Oliver wedding?

It’s fun, fashionable, enjoyable and effortless. There’s lots of colour. It’s a very good time. 

We provide a good time for our couples by bringing that energy – everything follows from that. If we’re high energy, then everyone else at the wedding, from the suppliers to the guests, is going to have a good time. Our events will never get old. 

We also believe in a ‘less is more’ approach. The Matthew Oliver aesthetic is very much led and designed by the locations that we’re working with.

If you could plan anyone’s wedding – living or dead – who would be your dream client couple?

I would pick David Attenborough, because I absolutely love him! He is literally the god of this planet and he is such a great educator. His wedding would be so minimal and not over the top. It would be a smack in the face to everyone saying you need to have these big crazy celebrations.

We’ve got to think about how we move forward as an industry. Why are we planning these million-pound weddings when we need to think more about what we’re doing to this planet? I’m being controversial here because it’s our industry, but David Attenborough would have a really simple, environmentally-friendly wedding that would use nature, showcasing it in a great way. It would be an education in how we can sustainably utilise materials, spaces and people that we’re working with. He’d probably also work with a charity, so I really like the idea of that.

…But, I’d also love to plan weddings for Madonna and Beyonce because they’re just my girls, my queens!


Want to know more about planning your dream wedding? Catch up with a previous edition of Lifting the Veil, or read 6 Reasons You Need a Wedding Planner. You could also start with a Wedding Checklist! Be sure to check back for our next edition of Lifting the Veil

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